The Power of Presence

There's nothing better than being with the one you are with.

Let me explain. You have to be there physically, but you should also be there emotionally and mentally. One hundred percent.

We all have this "chattering monkey" (from Buddhism) in our head. It's the voice that is constantly talking to you, often reminding you of all the things you have to do. Getting that report done, following up on the points at that meeting, picking up your dry cleaning... Yeah, we all have stuff to do, and we're all busy.

But when you're with your lover, really with them, that should all go away. With practice, it can. You have to be mindful of it and give them your full attention. Turn off or ignore your cell phone, email, worries and be there, in the moment, with your partner. Few things are sexier than your full attention, and it will ensure that you have theirs. The intimacy and trust that that builds, not to mention respect, is priceless.

Look them in the eye and hold that contact while talking. Look at them occasionally while kissing, caressing, making out, making love. Eye contact while making love is very, very powerful.

Try it and see what I mean.