There's never been a better time for porn. There are incredibly sexy choices out there for anything you desire. And it's more beautifully shot and actors for everyone's individual description of "beauty". It's hot, great for getting yourself off, and great for heating up as a couple. Maybe even opening some dialog about what you want.
But here's the thing. You can't base your sex life on porn. It's produced to be visually stimulating, and the actors are playing for the camera. There are things you do that are amazing, but on camera you can't see what's going on because to do it right, you're hiding parts of it from the camera. And that's no good. Men are visual creatures, and porn is made for that. We love seeing hot images of sex.
One good example is a man performing oral sex on a woman. If you used your tongue on a woman's clit the way most adult films show it, your partner may very well ask you to stop because it doesn't feel good. And banging away all the time, or switching positions often when your partner really wants you to keep up just that position and speed can kill the mood.
It's better to realize what porn is great for and that there are some great resources to learn the right way to do things with a partner (and communicating with each other is a big one), as I'm trying to here.
Here's a tip for when you ARE watching porn by yourself: pick something you like and something that's fairly long. Get yourself in the mood and don't just fast forward to the best part near the end. Watch the entire scene (or better yet, two). By picking a time when you don't have to rush, you train yourself to last longer. That's one of the problems with the way many men masturbate, if you constantly race to finish you are training yourself for premature ejaculation. Slow down, enjoy the view, and know that by taking longer, you are helping make yourself a better lover.
